We’ve all done it – some more than others…
Contrary to what we tell ourselves, “putting it off” doesn’t exist. It simply remains undone. If you’re a person who lives one way, yet proclaims to live another way in the future, I’m afraid you’re simply trying to justify not getting things done.
If you spend your time complaining about how much you have to do (aka procrastination) you have no present time to get things done. What a perfect excuse! This flimsy justification for not living in the present moment causes further self-doubt and self-delusion, moving you further away from being strong and capable and propels you towards being a victim … full of hope and wishes. Fairytale stuff!
Accompanying procrastination is the inevitable neurotic behaviour, along with useless, negative emotions such as guilt and anxiety. These emotions consume more time and energy than just getting it done in the first place.
Lying to yourself keeps you from having to admit you’re not a doer. The bottom line is, if it’s important enough to be on your list of activities, roll up your sleeves and get started!
3 common neurotic phrases:
“I hope it will work out”
“I wish things were better”
“Maybe it will be ok”
As long as you use the above you can absolve yourself of responsibility and continue to rationalise doing nothing. Things rarely improve on their own. If they do improve, it’s because you’ve made the choice to do something constructive.
People who are not ‘doers’ are often ‘critics.’ It’s much easier to be a critic as being a doer require effort, risk and adaption to change! It’s always easier to talk about how someone else had performed than to turn around and look in the mirror. By being a critic you can feel important at the expense of others – using others performance as stepping stone to elevate yourself in your own mind. This way, you can avoid having to fail, coming face to face with self-doubt.
Procrastination is also a great way to justify sloppy or poor performance by saying you simply didn’t have time. Or even better … you may be able to manipulate others into doing it for you!
Doers have no time to criticise others – they’re too busy doing! They spend their time helping others who are not so talented rather than serving as their critic.
Boredom doesn’t exist for the doer. Procrastination creates boredom in the present moment. The choice is always yours.
Examples of typical procrastination:
- Remaining stuck in a job where you feel unable to grow
- Hanging onto a relationship that’s gone sour
- Refusing to address/work on relationship difficulties
- Not tackling addictions, saying “I’ll quit when I’m ready”
- Putting off menial tasks
- Avoiding confrontation
- Being afraid to change
- Deciding to start your diet next week, tomorrow
- Using tiredness as an excuse
- Getting sick when you are faced with a difficult situation
- I don’t have time to do it
- Constantly looking forward to that dream trip
- Being a critic to camouflage your own refusal to do things
- Refusing to get a physical check-up so you don’t have to deal with illness
- Planning but never putting into action a regular exercise program
- Living your entire life for your children and always putting off your own happiness
- Make a decision to live 5 mins at a time instead of always thinking long term. Use each 5 mins to complete tasks and get things done
- Simply begin a project you’ve been putting off
- Ask yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen if I take action now?
- Make a designated time slot in your diary to complete tasks you’ve been putting off
- Procrastinating is substituting the now with anxiety about the future – ask yourself what you are trying to avoid in the current moment by procrastinating
- Quit smoking NOW, start your diet THIS MOMENT….do one push up NOW. Immediate action is how you tackle the problem
- Ask yourself – are you doing now what you’d choose to do if you only had 6 months to live?
- Decide not to be tired until the MOMENT BEFORE YOU GET INTO BED
- Eliminate the words hope, wish and maybe and replace with “I am going to do the following things to ensure I feel better”
- And finally … BE A DOER – NOT A WISHER, HOPER OR CRITIC!